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Exactly How to Enhance Your Parent-Teen Communication Skills

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and when it comes to parenting teenagers, it’s paramount. Teenagers are navigating a transformative period in their lives, marked by newfound independence, complex emotions, and evolving identities. As parents, our ability to communicate effectively can significantly impact our relationship with our teenagers. One book that offers valuable insights into the art of effective communication, which can be particularly helpful in the context of parenting teenagers, is ‘Exactly What to Say’ by Phil M. Jones.

The Power of 'Exactly What to Say'

‘Exactly What to Say’ is not your typical parenting book. It’s not about child psychology or disciplinary strategies. Instead, it’s a book that delves deep into the principles of persuasive and influential communication. Written by Phil M. Jones, a renowned expert in the field of communication and sales, this book offers a treasure trove of practical advice that can be applied to various aspects of life, including parenting.

Building Trust and Rapport

One of the fundamental aspects of effective communication with teenagers is building trust and rapport. Teenagers often struggle with opening up about their thoughts and feelings, especially when they fear judgment or criticism. ‘Exactly What to Say’ provides actionable strategies for establishing trust and rapport with your teenagers. By creating a safe and non-judgmental space for them to express themselves, you can encourage open and honest communication.

Asking the Right Questions

Another challenge in parenting teenagers is asking the right questions. Often, simple “yes” or “no” questions lead to closed-off responses. Phil M. Jones offers techniques for asking questions that stimulate meaningful conversations. These questions can encourage your teenagers to share more about their experiences, thoughts, and concerns, leading to deeper connections.

Resolving Conflicts Constructively

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, including parent-teen relationships. ‘Exactly What to Say’ equips parents with tools to navigate conflicts and disagreements constructively. By using the principles outlined in the book, you can promote understanding and cooperation during challenging moments.

Positive Influence

Influencing your teenagers’ decisions and behaviors in a positive way is a delicate art. This book provides insights into how to do just that. By applying the strategies from ‘Exactly What to Say,’ you can guide your teenagers toward responsible choices and behaviors without resorting to authoritarian tactics.

Fostering Connection

Ultimately, ‘Exactly What to Say’ helps parents foster better understanding, empathy, and connection with their teenagers. While it may not be specifically marketed as a parenting book, its principles can significantly enhance your parenting skills, particularly in the realm of communication.

‘Exactly What to Say’ by Phil M. Jones offers a valuable resource for parents seeking to enhance their communication skills and build stronger, more meaningful connections with their teenagers. By applying the principles outlined in this book, parents can create an environment of trust, understanding, and open communication, ultimately fostering healthier relationships with their growing children


Sapna Rad

Coach for Parents of Teens

Sapna empowers parents who want lives filled with connection, authenticity, purpose, laugher and resilience.

Having trouble understanding adults as a child and not able to connect to her son, Sapna now helps parents and caregivers with skills that she wished she had.

Sapna is a Certified Conscious Parenting Coach and NLP practitioner studied under Dr. Shefali Tsabary (author of Conscious Parent), Dr. Gabor Mate (Compassionate Enquiry) and Dr.Bandler (Co-creator of neuro linguistic programming). Conscious Parenting is a powerful and rare blend of Western psychology and Eastern wisdom, and it lends itself to deep healing and awakening.Conscious Parenting gives insight into the parents inner landscape, heal their traumas and wounds so that they can then be available to their children and help them manifest the most authentic and expansive versions of themselves.

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