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Exactly What to Say to Show Someone That You Care

If I want someone to know that I care about them in any setting, these are the questions I’d ask:

How are you?

Is there anything I can do to make your life easier?

Why was your day amazing? What made your day not so great?

What are the biggest barriers in your way right now?

What is the most exciting thing going on in your world right now?

I would start with questions, because those who truly care about those around them should never make assumptions. Instead, they should start from a place of seeking to understand or curiosity about what the other person needs/wants.

We should go deeper to understand if there is anything we can personally do to help them or guide them to a better path.

If you lean into seeking to understand their unique experiences or point of view, they will feel heard by you. That will put you light years ahead of anyone else in their circle.


Heather R. Younger

Heather R. Younger, J.D., CDP, is an experienced keynote speaker, two-time author, and the CEO and Founder of Employee Fanatix, a leading employee engagement, leadership development, and DEI consulting firm, where she is on a mission to help leaders understand the power they possess to ensure people feel valued at work.

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