This means that you can choose the life that you want and take control over situations that will happen to you tomorrow, next week, next year, even next decade.
In this blog, you’ll learn the 5 things to stop doing if you want a better future.
STOP looking for PRAISE and instead SEEK trusted feedback
You’re not the only one who loves a bit of praise and admiration. We all like to be told that we’re doing a great job.
But be careful not to get stuck in the praise-seeking trap that prevents you from listening to the people who’ll give you real feedback. And that includes criticism!
Praise is an ego game that lures us in like a Siren calls the sailor to the rocks. But if you’re weak to the praise of the Sirens, you could easily crash and drown.
Instead, you should turn towards the people that might not tell you exactly what you want to hear, but will tell you what you need to know to navigate your ship in the right direction.
STOP counting your FOLLOWERS and SERVE the people that entrust you with their attention
Do you spend more of your energy chasing new and exciting followers than you do nurturing who you’ve already got?
Much like real life friendships, if you go all out to impress people who don’t really know you in favour of spending time with the loyal friends who have already invested in you, you run the risk of losing both.
It might feel like progress when your follow list, friend list or client list is growing, but do you know what happens when you start to put that attention into the people that you know you can count on?
You build strong and resilient relationships.
These are the kind of relationships that are built to last and will serve you again and again.
STOP WORRYING about others and focus on your own HABITS instead
Comparing ourselves with others is an innate part of being human. And the sad reality is, no matter how successful, funny or creative you are, you’ll always feel that there is someone better than you.
So you should just give up now.
Give up the constant comparing because it’s not doing you any favors!
One great quote to consider here is this:
It’s an impossible task that makes you realize how pointless it is to compare yourself with other people.
Instead, you should focus on habits. Compare your habits with somebody else’s who is nailing a target that you want to achieve. This gives you the chance to improve your habits and improve yourself without feeling like you’re in a competition where all the odds are stacked against you.
STOP referencing the PAST as evidence that controls your FUTURE
If you want to move forwards, you have to stop holding onto the past.
Making progress is about seeing the opportunity that’s in front of you and embracing change.
Like a monkey swinging through a tree. You have to let go of the last branch and go straight on to the next branch – it’s an opportunity that takes you closer to where you want to be. No holding on to those previous branches for security or you’ll hinder your progress.
Many people hold on to limiting beliefs like “I tried that before and it didn’t work” or “I’ve never been good at that.” But this is how you get stuck.
If you want your future to be better, you have to be ready to evolve and change the way you think.
STOP CELEBRATING the finish line and start working on the STEPS
Nobody watches the Olympics by fast-forwarding each race to the end just to see the results.
That would ruin the whole thing.
We want to see the progression, the journey, and the ups and downs before the triumph at the end.
So why put all of your focus on your goals rather than the journey you’re on to get to them?
The journey you take is the part where you learn the most and it has many achievements along the way. These smaller achievements are what keep you going and help you to build the habits you need to get to your end goal.
The end goal that you’re striving towards should act as a guiding force, but you should be celebrating every step of the journey.
It’s In Your Hands
You’ve read the 5 things to stop doing if you want a better future, so now you know what you can do and what NOT to do to create a future that you can look forward to.
Be proud of the steps that you take, focus on your daily habits, nurture your real friends and take advice from the people that want to see you make progress.
You can now implement these strategies to change the way you think.
Changing the way you think will impact the decisions that you make and shape your future.
One of the ways that you can change your thoughts is by changing your words. A small shift in your thinking can have a big impact on your results.